Osho – Nobody is here to fulfill somebody else’s expectations

Osho – The energy is perfectly good. Just one problem is there, that you don’t listen to your own voice; and that has to be done. Don’t be distracted by anything else – follow your own feeling. If you are feeling happy, be happy; don’t think of anything else. If you are feeling sad, be sad; don’t consider others, their expectations. Your energy is flowing perfectly well, but you consider others too much, so sometimes you repress, sometimes you become pseudo, inauthentic. You look into others’ eyes and then you try to fulfill their idea of you. Now this is the problem.

Nobody is here to fulfill somebody else’s expectations. And the person who tries to fulfill somebody else’s expectations will always be in misery because he will not be true to his own self. He will not be respectful to his own self, and to show disrespect to one’s self is to show disrespect to god. And the punishment is misery. Respect yourself! That does not mean that you become hard on others – that simply means that you become soft on yourself. Be tender towards yourself.

You immensely need to grow a kind of tenderness towards yourself. You are very tender towards others but very hard towards yourself. That’s what has been taught to everybody, to be hard on yourself and be soft to others; that is utter nonsense. If you are not soft to yourself your softness towards others is just a show, a pretension, hypocrisy. And it is not going to make the other happy either, because he will see through the game; and particularly those who are close to you, who are in love with you, will always be able to see through the game. So you become false and they are not satisfied with your falsity, because falsity can never satisfy anybody. To be really tender and caring towards others, one needs first to be basically tender and caring towards oneself That’s where you are a little hard. Relax!

And your energy is going so well that now I can speak through your energy to you, so whenever you hear something from the inside, remember: I am telling it to you! And that is your commitment. Be polite to others if sometimes you have to go against their expectations; apologise, but don’t pretend. This is one of the problems that always comes in relationship: you have to consider the other, continuously, and he has to consider you, and both become false, inauthentic. How can love grow when both are inauthentic, insincere? Love grows in authenticity – it is a fragrance of authenticity. One needs to be absolutely genuine, only then does love grow. So in the world there are so many lovers and no love at all, because the basic requirement is never fulfilled.

So from this moment, this is your work on yourself: be utterly genuine. And even… it may create a few troubles in the beginning, but only in the beginning. Soon people start understanding – they can see your truth…. And if you respect yourself, others start respecting you and start respecting the space in which you are. But if even you are not respectful to it, who is going to. be respectful to it?

The old saying in the Talmud is: ’If I am not for me then who is going to be for me?’ Then nobody is for you and you are left in a kind of limbo. Be for yourself and only out of that can you be for others too, because then you will have something to share, to give. The energy is perfectly good – there is nothing wrong in the energy; just your mind goes on interfering with it. Stop interfering!

Yes Indeed. Even Eagles need a push.

A vision is the starting point of creation and it is indeed summed by numerous acts of courage. I remember a saying which goes like “Be what you are and do what you want because people who mind don’t matter and people who matter don’t mind”. The documentary has indeed helped me to slowly start thinking about how I can remove the debris and wreckage that are stuck to me which are  hassle for me to excel in life faster. I don’t want to be held back by those small things which don’t really matter in this new paradigm of my career.

The documentary “Even eagles need a push- Qualities of confident empowered people” by David Mc Nally helped me revisit and restore my level of self motivation. I was able to easily relate to all the 5 qualities or according to me the requisites for those who are striving forward and are empowered with confidence. After completing my 6 weeks in the two major departments - housekeeping and kitchen respectively, I am still saturated with energy and  passion to excel and to start climbing to greater heights. My vision is strong and my goal is set and there is no escape on hard work to get to that “bulls eye”. It’s indeed essential to leave behind those bitter moments at work which seldom matters and cherish those which made me feel; yes I am good at what I do. I have started to appreciate myself better and now I can see a bigger , better and most importantly a clearer picture.

I also realized  the extent to which I have to eradicate my short comings which can be converted into future opportunities for growth. And also work on how I am going to juggle with my five balls of life namely -work,family,health ,friends and spirit and I must also understand how to strike a balance in life and commit myself to work and relationships with the right commitment . The point that caught me strong was indeed “contribution”. It’s rightly put that getting is only followed by giving. And I recollected my father telling me, “Give what you can and one day you will get what you want.” When I work, I consider myself as a normal employee whose contribution to the organization will help in the required net result and right now all I am concerned about is how much I can contribute personally to the team I am working with , and I am sure my father put it so well when he told me “GIVE WHAT YOU CAN.. AND ONE DAY YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT “

The 30 Second Speech by Bryan Dyson

'Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, Friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air. You will soon or one day understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life.'


Bryan Dyson
CEO ,Coca Cola

Why a Bar Business ??

21st July 2011


After introducing the topic of Conceptualizing and Revolutionizing the idea of Bar Business in the Metros of India to the public through my blog, i was greeted with a lot of comments and suggestions. The most prominent among them being , Why do you want to start a bar business?Why not a restaurant or a Sports Bar?What drives you to the idea of opening a Chic Cocktail bars in the metros of India .My answer is very simple and very straight forward .Opening Such a joint will be profitable in the long run.

There are few businesses as glamorous as owning a bar or club. You'll be the proprietor of the establishment where people meet, greet, eat and drink. It'll be a home away from home for some of your customers, and you'll be the ruler of this social roost.
The profit potential for bars is incredible. By taking a $20 bottle of liquor, and selling it an ounce at a time for $1.50 and up, you can make as much as $192 per bottle. That's a whopping 800 percent return on your investment!
Owning your own bar or club can mean long hours, meticulous attention to detail, giving up vacations and weekends, and sometimes dealing with unruly customers. But if you have a clear vision, do your homework, and learn the ins and outs of the business, it can also translate into a rewarding and financially successful enterprise. If you're friendly, outgoing, like people and have good business sense, you're already well on your way.


I hope i have made my intentions on and the outcome from my project clear .

“Conceptualizing and Revolutionizing the Idea of Bar Business in the Metros of India”.

Like every other student who pass out of a catering school ,even I am dreaming to start something of my own. Well for me I have something in mind .and that something is that which involves the starting of the greatest possible way of making capital for a long period of time. I am planning it bigger and better. Something like “cocktails and dreams”. 

My idea of “Revolutionizing the Bar Business in the Metros of India”, is a not a very distant accomplishment. And bar business that I mean here is not just another bar where you go and enjoy the sip of beer and relax. It will be something much more complex in process and sophisticated in nature and very simple in its approach. I want it to be an entertainment for the guest in the 1 sq mile of my Chic Cocktail Bar, where I believe lays the greatest concentration of wealth in the world.

There is no better way of making it than behind the 3 ft of mahogany, they say. For the same me as an entrepreneur should outthink, out scheme, outmaneuver and definitely out work.

Bartending as the definition say is the art of serving beverages behind a bar. And the person who does this service is the bartender. Who is a bartender? In lay mans language, a bartender is a person who serves beverages behind the bar . May it be alcohol, wines, beverages or cocktails. Cocktails being the most revenue generating of all depends on the bartender who also act as a Mixologist at that point of time. For a bartender a customer is a means to an end. They can puzzle the customers with ice work and dazzle them with the bottle work. To me a bartender is the aristocrat of the working class. If he knows how to make the moves right and win the customers heart the money will just flow in to the organization, come hell come high water. The essential technique of bartending is that unless you pour , the more you shall score. Faster is definitely better for a bartender.

My concept in this Cocktail bar will be very simple. The guest can surely order their favorite classical cocktails may it be the sex on the beach or schnapps made from peach, the golden hammer the Alabama slammer, the Mojito with can go well with the burrito, the cosmopolitan or Cuba Libra and above that the bartender will make them drinks with his mixology skills for what they like and what they want to drink. I believe for a quality Cocktail, you should use quality spirit ,mixers ,alcohol, or let it be even the garnishes. On completion it should be a classy drink both in style and in quality.

This is the intro of my new research on “Conceptualizing and Revolutionizing the Idea the Bar Business in the Metros of India”. Stay tuned for more updates

Interview With Mr Rishab Tandon...

CHAMPION OF CAMPUS- IHM MUMBAI 2008-2011

Pankaj Balachandran, one of the most successful performers during the placement season and titled as the coolest and the professionally sound 

candidate by the recruiters during the interviews. Made it to various companies including the esteemed Taj Management Trainee and the ITC Hotel Executive Trainee program.

Rishabh- The most proud moment of your life during campus recruitment, share the efforts that went in to crack such bigger company’s selection process.

Pankaj-   The entire campus recruitment gave me several proud moments. I am humbled that the efforts that went in did pay off well. One of the moments I will cherish lifelong was at Marriott’s. The General Manager of J.W Marriott gave me his business card after interviewing me and said excellent performance and told me that you would do extremely well in Sales and Marketing.

Rishabh- The weirdest Group Discussion topic you faced in the campus placement.

Pankaj-   “Be what you are and say what you want . Because people who mind don’t matter and people who matter do not mind” . This was the weirdest topic that I have had in a GD so far. Not that the topic was not good enough .It was indeed a fantastic topic. Its just that I don’t remember what I spoke for it but I guess I really spoke well, otherwise I wouldn’t have got selected. Ha-ha.

Rishabh- The toughest question you ever encountered in multiple interviews faced.

Pankaj-  hmmmm. I must say. There is no tough question as such that can be asked. If you think you will be canned then sorry you will be for sure. So get into the room with full of confidence and not over confidence. And if you would like to know how questions can be like here is one tough small question for starters. “Impress me in the next 30 seconds or sell yourself “

Rishabh- The most repeated question faced in multiple interviews and how you responded to it.

Pankaj- So Pankaj! Tell me something about yourself!! This is a question that not even a single organization failed to ask me. And by the end of the 3^rd interview I was well prepared for this answer. 

Rishabh- I personally remember that after not making it to OCLD which was one of your first process, your confidence level was a little low. How you recovered. Recollect the most difficult step in the selection process and the company which made you thinks hard.

Pankaj-

Yes not making into OCLD and rejecting the first offer (OCER) was a big blow to me. But everything from that moment started inspiring me  I was trying to make myself aware that nothing was impossible and all you need to do is that your ”want” should be treated as your “need”. And when Taj came for campus placement I decided that I will prepare for it  to give my best and most importantly I started believing in myself . And I started believing that my deepest fear is not that I am inadequate, my deepest fear is that I am powerful beyond measure!! And that did the magic for all the subsequent interviews.

Rishabh- Tips for your juniors to continue the legacy of “being the best” in placements. Share your mantras on grooming, interviews, discussions and more.

Pankaj-    

Well I like the sound of it, “Being the best” in placements. What I ask my juniors to do is believe in yourself and be what you are. Every organization is looking for that ‘X’ Factor and knows that every organization is looking for different factors.  Know what the organization wants from you. Mould yourself before interviews into that slot which the organization want you to be. Faking doesn’t help.

Discussion: I have always tried to be very diplomatic when it comes to discussion. What you speak is seldom important but how you speak does the magic.  The way you see the topic make the difference. Always wait and understand what the topic is all about and get a bird’s eye view of the topic. There will be several people who start just as soon as the topic is given. Let them be. Your  approach to the topic should be like” the calm before the storm”. Get the crowd in your hand and control it.

Interview: Do not drag an answer. The interviewer is not there to listen to a story from you. Your answers should be polite and to the question. Make yourself comfortable and judge the panel very well. Do know who is going to interview you and you should be prepared how to answer each question. Learn what the ‘x’ factor is for the organization and be on track. Pay good attention to the presentation. And rest of it will come to you then and there just be yourself and keep your cool J

Rishabh- Pankaj by being recruited by so many companies and ultimately you have to choose one, isn’t it difficult to make your decision. Do you think we should come up with some strict rules on the same.

Pankaj-    Yes indeed it was a difficult decision. The biggest problem is that we get a confirmation from the company very late and we still sit for interviews thinking that we won’t make it to even one company. I did not sit for several organizations like Leela Hotels, Starwood, Park, Holiday Inn , Four Seasons etc after I got my confirmation of Taj . And when I got the confirmation of ITC I didn’t not go for the final interview of Marriott’s. I confined my selection to Taj and ITC and it was a big headache to decide which one to choose. So guys before you sit for an interview decide what you want to do. Decide if you would truly love working for the organization. I chose Taj because I wanted to work for it. I saw the hospitality of Taj not just to the guests but to us as well.

Rishabh- Share your motivational mantra, quote and idol.

Pankaj-

“Your deepest fear is not that you are inadequate, your deepest fear is that you are powerful beyond measure. It’s not the darkness but the light that frightens you the most”.

Every time I am out there waiting for my turn to get grilled in that four walls of the interview I say these lines to myself and the truth is I started realizing I am indeed what I want myself to be and that thought motivated me and kept me going.

Rishabh -Plans for the next 02 years.

Pankaj-  I will be working with Taj for the next 4 years undoubtedly after that I would like to do an MBA in Hospitality abroad. Taj sends their employees for the same so I will be aiming for that.

Rishabh- Lastly do you want to acknowledge people (parents, friends and the college) for making it happen

Pankaj- Reaching the top wouldn’t have been possible without people. May it be faculty ,parents, teachers and my own dear friends. I would like to extend my sincere thanks to all of them. And to you sir who always told me after the Oberoi’s process  “You are made for better things .Your future lies in the Corporate World”.  It has always helped me going and growing.  And lastly let me not miss out to thank the God almighty with whom I would have had faith and courage to face every Endeavour.

Wishing you all the very best in your future endeavors.

BRAND CAPTION- A NEW MARKETING BUZZ

A tagline is a variant of a branding slogan typically used in marketing materials and advertising. The idea behind the concept is to create a memorable phrase that will sum up the tone and premise of a brand or product (like a film), or to reinforce the audience's memory of a product. Some taglines are successful enough to warrant inclusion in popular culture.

Having an attractive tagline comes under brand promotion. Brand promotion is a strategy that is commonly used in marketing in order to increase customer loyalty, awareness of products, and sales. Instead of focusing on a specific product or products, a company instead tries to focus on the promotion of its brand. This strategy has been proven to be very effective in marketing, and many companies currently employ it. Typically, companies rely on repetition in advertising in order to familiarize customers with the brand. Brand promotion also leads to increases in sales in many cases.

The Authors on doing the research found out thats all the five star properties have some specific tag line which explains and promotes the brand. For eg the biggest hotels chain in India have the following tag line or single line brand caption

“Nobody gives you India, Like we do.”

ITC Welcomgroup Luxury Collection

 “Filling the earth with light and warmth of hospitality.”

Hilton International Hotels

 “Taj Holidays…It Stays With You.”

“Engage, energize, relax! Experience the new signature in hospitality” .Vivanta by Taj

Taj Hotels, Resorts and  Palaces

 “At Trident ..You are Sure."

Trident

 “Relish, Relax and Rejuvenate this season with our bespoke experience.”

Four Seasons International